Examining Priorities

As you may have noticed during this blogging challenge, there were many days where no blog was posted. Today, when I saw this topic, it felt like a great way to connect the topic to my frequency (or infrequency) of blogging.

During the first 10 days of the blogging challenge, I was totally into it, and I was enjoying and discovering new topics to discuss. Then, as inevitably happens with this work, there was so much going on with other duties that blogging had to go on the back burner.

Having that experience allowed me to realize how I was putting pressure on myself to keep up with maintenance tasks, such as blogging or social media. I began to recognize that while these tasks are very much helpful to my work, they are not essential to it.

And, that got me thinking. Where do I want my business to go? What do I want to be spending my time doing? For example, even though I don’t mind blogging (and many times I enjoy it), if given the choice I would rather be connecting with clients in person.

I have a long standing issue of putting too much pressure on myself. It is an issue that comes from one of my personal past life patterns, the Infidel. The Infidel, because of their fears of judgment and persecution, carries a deep desire to prove themselves to others. One way that need to prove oneself can show up is through work output.

So, when I look toward what I want to create in the future, it is a life with less pressure on myself. Part of that journey to get there will come from me releasing the self-induced pressure. The other part will come from my willingness to let go of those tasks I don’t need to be in control of any longer.

And, I know that will change as my business evolves, but at least I am headed in the right direction for sanity in solopreneurship!

How I Knew It Was Time to Leave My Day Job

At some point along your spiritual journey, there will be a time when you question if your life path involves doing your spiritual work full time, or if you are supposed to keep a day job. That time for me came in 2008, when I was noticing how I felt every time I thought about my day job, versus how I felt when I was  connecting with clients.

However, 2008 wasn’t quite the time to make that change. I first had to put that request out to the Universe; the intention that I was ready to make the transition. By making that request, I started the process of building a bridge to support this process.

Finally, one day in July of 2009, I arrived at work and realized everything, and I mean everything, on my to-do list was complete. I was caught up on emails, phone calls and all of my work. That had never once happened before; I knew something was up.

Later that day, I received a call from my boss stating that he was going to have to cut everyone’s pay. I was the head of HR, so a part of my job would be to tell everyone about this pay cut. However, this change in pay also affected me as well. I told him that I would need to think about it overnight, and went home and talked about it with my boyfriend.

The next day, I decided I would take the leap into the unknown. So, instead of taking the pay cut, I told my boss that I couldn’t accept it. After discussing my decision with my boss, he did some restructuring with HR positions and decided that the best thing to do was to lay me off. This ended up being such a big blessing for me. The time I had away from being at the office not only allowed me to look for work, but also I was able to put the time and energy into building up my spiritual business.

By the time my unemployment benefits ran out, and after my job search yielded no tangible results, I knew that I was meant to work my spiritual business full time. Without putting that request out to the Universe when I did, things would not have been set in motion the way they were. It definitely took some patience on my end, but because I just allowed myself to go with the flow of the events (and not try to push for a speedier timeframe), everything worked out just as it should be. (Really better than I could have ever planned.)

Since that time, I have not looked back. Yes, it does take a great amount of discipline to manage all of the tasks required to run your own business. But , honestly I cannot imagine it any other way!