The Year I Gave Up Reading Books

For many years of my life I was a veracious reader, spending entire weekends lost in the pages of a good book. I would read fiction and non-fiction books, moving from one to the next.

One year around Christmastime, my boyfriend asked me if I could remember the details from a certain book about meditation. I could not. Then he asked me another question about a different book I had just finished, and I could not recall the details either. It was at that point, he made a suggestion to me that was extremely eye-opening. He asked, “Why don’t you try to give some time between books? So, the information can really sink in.”

Honestly, I hadn’t thought about that before. For so many years, I would move from one book right to the next, usually without much thought about why I had chosen to read the book in the first place. That was when I realized that books had become a distraction for me. What had started as a way to educate myself about spiritual topics, had now become a way for me to get so distracted in the learning process that I did not allow for time to assimilate the new knowledge into my life.

So on that New Year’s Day of 2007, I decided I was going to take a year off from reading books. I didn’t know it at the time, but there was truly nothing finer I could have done to speed up my spiritual development.

All of a sudden, I not only had more time, but also discovered that my thoughts were more focused and my intuition became clearer. I was able to listen to my guidance in a way like never before.

Did I miss books? Yes, for the first 3 months, I really missed them. However, the more I removed myself from them, the more I discovered that I had been missing out on connecting with myself and my guides. By the time the year was over, I didn’t jump right back into reading (even though I thought I would have). I had discovered something that was even better than connecting with the words and vision of another person, and that was connecting with my own.

Why I Don’t Have A Bucket List

I actually created a bucket list once, in college; it was filled with things that at that time in my life I thought were important. When I think about those items on that list, I realized I accomplished many, if not most of them within the preceding 10 years.

That was when I realized I am not someone who thinks in the scope of a lifetime, so how can it be possible for me to think of all the things I would like to accomplish in the many remaining years of my life.

Add that to my tendency to be an over-planner (my Ego LOVES to plan, organize, list make and so forth), and I decided that I am going to stop feeling like I should have a bucket list.

So, now you might be wondering, how do I think about what I do want to accomplish? As a part of my spiritual practice, I truly try to focus on living in the now. Therefore, my goals and aims are going to be based on what is happening from one moment to the next.

I have what I call a Spirit Mailbox. It is an old mailbox that used to hang on my grandfather’s front porch. I have a picture of an angel on the front, and once a month on the New Moon I look inside of it. I include both ongoing requests, like continued happiness in my relationship, and also new requests, such as manifesting financing for a new wellness center.

The requests, or spirit mail, go in the box whenever I have the intuition to put them in there. Each month on the new moon, I go through and take out the spirit mail that has manifested in my life, and keep the ongoing, and yet to physically appear, requests in there.

This experience has helped me to think in smaller, more manageable goals, which for me has created more peace in my life. The long term bigger goals are in there too, but still only for the next 10 years or so. This is simply because as I grow and change as a person, I have new things that become important to me.

I know that if I still had that bucket list from college, there would certainly be things on there that I have no care to accomplish any more. For now, I am happy living in the moment, not thinking too far ahead and yet still keeping those next steps in my awareness.

On a side note, the Spirit Mailbox is not my idea. I have been using it since at least 2007, but cannot remember how I heard about it. I would love to give credit where credit is due, but simply have no idea how the concept came into my life.

Spirituality is Honoring Your Own Individuality

Spirituality is a journey to discover (or should I say rediscover) yourself. It is an individual journey and one that no other person can tell you how it should be accomplished. Each person will find their own truth within spirituality and what works for them. To me spirituality is the highest form of honoring our own individuality, however we express it.

So, how do I honor my individuality? I believe in the power that our past life experiences have in shaping our lives today. I believe we are all souls on a path of evolution through lifetimes of experiences. And, with each lifetime we discover more about our Soul’s essence, learning and growing along the way.

Each lifetime has its own life lessons, karmic agreements and experiences, which we will carry forward through subsequent lives. But, that is not all bad news! We also grow our knowledge and expertise through each passing lifetime. As a part of my work, I have developed a framework to teach about past life experiences. This framework is in the form of 16 past life patterns, 16 common experiences that show up for all of us. Each person typically holds onto between 3 and 5 patterns that they have more experience and expertise with than the others.

By understanding our own unique mix of these past life patterns, and also the blueprint of our current lifetime (Astrological birth chart), we can connect with our purpose, talents and emotional challenges. This helps us not only to stop repeating our negative patterns again and again, but also shows us the expertise from our previous lifetimes that we can build upon now.

Spirituality means so many things to me; it is integral to who I am and what I do. Yes, past life study is a huge part of my work, but spirituality is also: Source energy, animals, crystals, fairies, angels, Lemuria, Atlantis, ascended masters, astrology, meditation, self-empowerment, belief, affirmations, honoring oneself, unconditional love, compassion, and many more things that I could list here.

When it comes down to it, spirituality means to me: being at peace with yourself, your beliefs and how you express them to the world.

Want to learn more about your Past Life Patterns? When you are ready to learn more about the Past Life Patterns you hold (and how to transform them), take the Past Life Quiz.