Fear of the Unknown

One of the learning points that keeps coming up for me is being comfortable with the Unknown. This is not always the easiest situation to deal with, but I am finding that the more I am in the space of the unknown, the easier it is to handle.

You see, back before I began my spiritual work, I was a very logical minded person, focused on schedules and planning everything out for myself. This was all done in an attempt to control what was happening in my life. And, as I began to become more aware, I had to learn bit-by-bit to give up my need to be in control.

I have recently had some people l ask me: “How are you able to do this? How are you able to let go of the need to know how everything will happen?” Some days it is not easy, but truthfully most of the time being in a place of surrender is very peaceful.

I often explain it by thinking about my life like a room filled with filing cabinets, each one representing a different topic and area of life. For the longest time, I felt that I had to be in charge of every filing cabinet. I would never let another person, or even my guides, assist me in any way. However, as I became more and more aligned with my guides, I found it that it grew easier and easier to relinquish my need to guard and monitor all of the filing cabinets. Finally coming to a place where I can totally surrender that duty I placed on myself.

By doing so, I have become much more able to cope with change, the unknown, and all things that cannot be controlled or planned for. It is by surrendering my need to be in control, that I can see how much energy I wasted trying to figure everything out. Now I can find the peace of mind to sit back, and allow my intuition to direct me, instead of being in a state of stress.

And, so where many people will find chaos in the unknown, I find that it has now become quite peaceful. (At least most of the time)

Releasing Expectations

Once again we have seen another month of change this June, and we have all had to shuffle around in one way or another. One important thing that I have learned is to ignore my Ego when it tries to go into planning mode. See, I used to be a super-planner, planning out my outfits for school as a child, and scheduling my day out to the nth degree. However, now in the midst of all of the change going on, I have simply learned to be okay with saying, “I don’t know.”

We tend to think that our future is always set in stone, but it is not. Our future is created by our choices, thoughts and actions made in the now moment. When we look to the future with fear, we create that future; when we look to the future with hope, we create that future. Because we are always in the process of creating, we will never always know what is around the next turn for us.

The only thing I do know is that I have given up trying to figure out what will happen next. Yes, I will follow my intuition when it prompts me. And, yes I will hold positive expectations toward what I wish to manifest. But, beyond that I am not in a space to know all of the details at this moment, nor do I need to. It is only the Self that has to know all of the whos, whats, wheres and hows. It may be difficult for some to release the need to know all of the details, but I have learned to be at peace with not knowing.

At some point on the spiritual path, we are all asked to let go of our perception of control. It is not an easy thing to let go of, and there are still moments when I can hear my Ego trying to add its opinion on such matters. But, I have chosen not to listen to it anymore. We all give energy to our thoughts and expectations from time to time, but many times we take it way too far and waste energy trying to combat every potential outcome of a situation.

One of my favorite affirmations to use when I feel the Ego trying to influence this behavior is “I expect the best, by having no specific expectations.” This way I can remain in a place of positivity, and still let go of the need to control all if the details. It is actually quite a freeing place to be!

Living in the Now

The journey on the path of life is not always an easy one. However, it can bring you much joy, if you know how to navigate it effectively. As many of you know, I am visiting India with some of my colleagues. During this trip, there have been times when each of us feels that the burden of life is too great. Yet, even in those emotional moments, we have to remind ourselves that it is only temporary.

Whenever you are feeling deep despair, or feeling as though your job assisting others is too large a task to accomplish, just remember to focus on the Now moment. When you are in that Now moment, it does not matter what is going on outside your window, or even what is happening tomorrow, all that matters is how you act and react in the Now. When you can understand both the big picture and the small details, simultaneously, without putting pressure on yourself to accomplish it all in this moment, then you can reveal the peace of the Now.

Every one of you will have moments in your life where you are releasing deep emotions, or where you want to give-up on what your life path is compelling you to do. And, while it is perfectly natural to question your choices and Soul Mission; no matter what happens, you must never give up on yourself.

There is a common misconception that in order to be an effective individual, that you always must be doing something. That is not true. For what happens in that constant state of busyness is that the Ego is keeping you distracted. It is not to say that you do not have obligations, you do; but try to take time to be in quiet, to allow your intuition to come in.

Many times when you are trying to tackle a problem, you toil and toil, and it seems to be one frustration after the next. But, when you take a step back, focus your energy on something else, and surrender to the fact that you have done all you can for the moment, then you allow for new ideas to pop right into your mind. Life is both being and doing. In the state of doing, you are taking guided action. In the state of being, you are allowing the next guidance to come in.

Life, without taking time for being, becomes exhausting; that is the feeling that many on the planet are faced with today. It is not difficult to find time for being. It can be just 15 minutes a day of quiet. That can be accomplished during exercise, or in morning as you get ready for the day, or in meditation and quiet contemplation. In being, you learn to truly live in the now moment. You learn to cultivate peace for yourself and you learn how best effectively to manage your personal journey.

Life is neither difficult nor easy; it is exactly what you put into it, whether consciously or subconsciously. If you have a fear, make the steps to transform it. If you do not believe in yourself, find out why. If you are angry with Spirit for something done in the past, discover where that energy comes from. Every emotion is sourced in some experience, either from this life or from your past lives. When you take the time to reveal that source and push beyond it, the journey of life can lead you to a place of joy and peace within yourself.