Detachment

Detachment is not an easy thing. It is so hard to watch the people that we love to go through difficult life experiences. But, sometimes detachment is a necessary thing. Why? It allows the person to going through the experience to learn what they need to learn without our interference. Also, it allows us to preserve some of our energy for ourselves so that we can have clarity about what is happening, and not get caught up in emotions.

Detachment is not about ignoring something or pretending it is not there, and it is not about removing yourself completely from someone’s life. So, what is detachment then? Detachment is a step of emotional distance where you separate yourself from what another person is choosing to do. For example, if you have someone whom you care about having problems with addiction, too much assistance often can fall in the unhealthy enabling category. But, when you can have detachment from what they are experiencing, your will be able to gain more clarity about what to do, if anything, for that situation.

Detachment is also a way for anyone to preserve their energy. This is because when you are detached, you only listen to your intuition, not to the emotions of the situation. If we were always to listen to our emotions (or others’ emotions), we would often react unnecessarily, and therefore put out energy that is not going to be used.

This is definitely a fine line to walk, and not easy to do. But, sometimes this is all we can do when we see someone making a series of choices that move them away from being their best self. We also have to remember that we do not know what another person’s path is, and we do not know what experience will be their catalyst for change. By assisting this person today, you might unknowingly be preventing them from reaching their highest potential in the future. Perhaps they needed to be homeless in order to have that experience, and that experience of being homeless would lead them to create an outreach program in the future. We simply cannot know.

Detachment can be used in many cases and it is about letting your intuition, not emotion, lead and guide you to your own highest potential, and letting others experience their life lessons in a way that leads them to their highest potential. Detachment is truly about having unconditional love. Love not in the capacity of enabling, but love in the form of allowing pure energy to flow freely in and around any difficult situation. Love in the form of receiving intuitive guidance and trusting that Spirit has a Divine plan for everyone involved, even if we cannot see it right in this moment.

Enabling Others

There is a deep conditioning on the Earth plane that we are somehow responsible for the behavior of others in our life. This comes from years of holding onto family secrets and feeling like we need to defend our inner circle of friends and family. But, now that the energy is changing you will find that if you are holding on to these behaviors that you will become increasing fatigued and even may experience illness. This is happening because it is no longer your responsibility to hold up the energy of others who do not want to do it for themselves.

We are only responsible for ourselves, and when we find love for ourselves and self-empowerment, those people in our life who are ready to find that same joy within them will naturally do so. But, there are always one or two people who are happy to stay where they are. And, this is not bad nor good, it is simply their choice.

We all have people in our lives who are satisfied with the life they have, even if we view it as harmful, stressful or depressed. But, who are we to judge what this other person feels is appropriate for their own life?

What we have to understand is that when they make that choice, it is not our responsibility to change their minds or to dictate how that choice in their life should be lead. We do not know their life lessons and we cannot assume that what was for our highest good will also be the same for them.

At the same time we are not responsible for enabling the other person’s behavior either. If you know someone who thinks that they are a victim of life and you have spoken with them time and time again about changing their perspective or finding tools for empowerment and they choose not to use your advice, soon there will be a time when you are just wasting your own energy. This is a waste of energy because you are starting to stress out, worry or because anxious about helping this person who does not want to be helped.

This is when your body starts to accumulate that stressful energy inside, and you start to feel even worse about things. It is this energy that can lead to dis-ease, pain and other distresses. Instead, try to detach from what the person is doing, or how they are feeling and simply send them love if you wish. The energy of unconditional love is always used, even if the intended recipient is unwilling to accept it.

Remember that in order to best serve yourself and God, you must have the awareness of where your energy and emotions are going. Are they being used for love, or are they used for worry? Are they being used on someone who is willing to accept them? If they are not, then know it is not your obligation to change this person’s life, they need to be willing to do so for themselves.