Examining Priorities

As you may have noticed during the blogging challenge, there were many days where no blog was posted. Today, when I saw this topic, it felt like a great way to connect the topic to my frequency (or infrequency) of blogging.

During the first 10 days of the blogging challenge, I was totally into it, and I was enjoying and discovering new topics to discuss. Then, as inevitably happens with this work, there was so much going on with other duties that blogging had to go on the back burner.

Having that experience allowed me to realize how I was putting pressure on myself to keep up with maintenance tasks, such as blogging or social media. I began to recognize that while these tasks are very much helpful to my work, they are not essential to it.

And, that got me thinking. Where do I want my business to go? What do I want to be spending my time doing? For example, even though I don’t mind blogging (and many times I enjoy it), if given the choice I would rather be connecting with clients in person.

I have a long standing issue of putting too much pressure on myself. It is an issue that comes from one of my personal past life patterns, the Infidel. The Infidel, because of their fears of judgment and persecution, carries a deep desire to prove themselves to others. One way that need to prove oneself can show up is through work output.

So, when I look toward what I want to create in the future, it is a life with less pressure on myself. Part of that journey to get there will come from me releasing the self-induced pressure. The other part will come from my willingness to let go of those tasks I don’t need to be in control of any longer.

And, I know that will change as my business evolves, but at least I am headed in the right direction for sanity in solopreneurship!

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Past Life Patterns – The Infidel

This is the description of one of the 16 Past Life Patterns. These patterns were developed by Karen Downing, in order to help you understand how past life experiences affect your life today. Each person carries 3 to 5 past life patterns in varying levels of influence. By understanding your unique mix of patterns, you can more easily build up your strengths and transform your challenges. Past life patterns are the key to uncovering your Soul Mission.

The Infidel Description – The Infidel is driven by a desire to prove themselves and their viewpoints to others. This comes from a predominance of past lives where they were made to feel different by their community, family, or peer groups in some way. The Infidel gains confidence by showing to others that they are in the right. This desire to prove oneself can be an asset in some situations, but also leads to many challenges for the Infidel.

For example, in a relationship the Infidel will have a difficult simply accepting what their partner is telling them. The Infidel prefers to learn through their own experiences and will very rarely, if at all, listen to the advice and guidance of another. This comes from many past lives where the Infidel had to learn to be self-reliant, and they feel a strong desire to hold onto that trait. The Infidel often has great success in the workplace, because of their driven nature, however they would not do well in a company culture that is all about collaboration.

Some of the typical past life experiences of the Infidel are: being an orator, being judged for your beliefs, being different from those in your family or community, being a pioneer in an area of life, being an early adopter of a new idea, concept or belief system. If you ever worry about how the media or “powers that be” are trying to influence you or others, or having your reputation tarnished, then you exhibit the Infidel pattern.

Expression of the Infidel Pattern in Your Life Now – The Infidel is the ultimate go-getter, striving to show their worthiness through how well-versed they are in knowledge and experience. They can be very accomplished in many ares of life, but are often ruled by a deep down anger that comes from these past life experiences of having to defend a differing viewpoint time and time again. If you express the Infidel pattern, you have to be aware of how you are talking and listening to others in your life. Because of the pattern of defending yourself, you can have a tendency to put others in their place, or come across as condescending. It is not that you wish to do this, this behavior is merely fueled by the need to prove that you know what is best for you. For example, if you have had success with a certain diet, you will feel as though you need to tell others about it, and why it is the best. (Even if they have not asked for this information.) Extreme expressions of the Infidel pattern can lead to aggressive behavior, addiction to stimulants, and even could cause someone to be labeled as a psychopath.

There are two ways that the Infidel theme reveals itself; The Gentle Infidel and the Magnanimous Infidel. If you resonate with The Infidel pattern, you might discover that you can possess qualities of one, or even both, of the ways that The Infidel is expressed. Often in one area of life you can feel one way, and in another area of life feel another way.

The Gentle Infidel – The Gentle Infidel is quite self-reliant and is very content moving through life at their own pace. They do not actively display their viewpoints most of the time; the way they showcase their Past Life Pattern is through their inability to listen to the advice and guidance of others. They resist the influence of others in their life, because they fear depending on anyone other than themselves. This comes from lifetimes when someone close to them did not approve of their opinions, beliefs or choices, and judged them harshly because of these differences. The biggest lesson for the Gentle Infidel is learn to share themselves with, and trust, others.

The Magnanimous Infidel – The Magnanimous Infidel, at first, seems like everyone’s best friend. They showcase their past life pattern by how they observe (and get to know) others, in order to expect how each person could attack them in some way. These attacks are of the emotional nature, or are attacks on work product, reputation, etc. The Magnanimous Infidel has this name, because it is as if they are making up for what someone judged about them lifetimes ago, by trying to show how they are so nice and so giving now (and they will even tell you as much). The Magnanimous Infidel’s biggest lesson is let go of their need to prove how accomplished they are and to simply permit their accomplishments to speak for them.

Past Life Pattern Breakdown:

  • Needs to prove they are right
  • Tends to feel attacked by others words/actions
  • Communicates in a way that others may find condescending
  • Sense of self based on facts, knowledge and accomplishments

Affirmation – “I allow others to express themselves for who they are. I no longer expect attacks on my belief system. I release the need to share my options, knowledge or expertise, unless I am asked to do so.”

Learn more about how the Infidel pattern is showing up in your life by enrolling in the On-Demand video course, Exploring Past Life Patterns.

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