Past Life Patterns – The Ruler

This is the description of one of the 16 Past Life Patterns. These patterns were developed by Karen Downing, in order to help you understand how past life experiences affect your life today. Each person carries 3 to 5 past life patterns in varying levels of influence. By understanding your unique mix of patterns, you can more easily build up your strengths and transform your challenges. Past life patterns are the key to uncovering your Soul Mission.

The Ruler Description – The Ruler needs to feel in control of all aspects of his or her life. Do you fear making the wrong decisions? Do you feel a deep sense of obligation to those around you? If so, you have the qualities of The Ruler archetype.

When you get to know someone who has lived the Ruler pattern, they can come across as being very well put together, like they are in charge of everything around them. However, inside, the Ruler is often wrought with stress, anxiety and worry out of obligation for others in their life. This can be their family, friends, co-workers, pets or any individual who they are strongly attached to. The Ruler is a take charge individual, but often can get so wrapped up in what they feel is best, that they have a difficult time listening to others clearly. Because of this, the Ruler can develop hearing loss if they do not address their inability to truly listen.

Some of the typical past life experiences of the Ruler are as being an authoritative figure, such as an Emperor/Empress, Queen/King, etc. The Ruler can also have past lives as the leader of a union group, political party, religion, or any other type of organization. The main challenge of the Ruler pattern is that they were put in positions to make decisions for others, time and time again. If you ever worry about making the wrong decisions, people trying to undermine you, or others not taking you “seriously”, then you have experienced the Past Life Pattern of the Ruler.

Expression of the Ruler Pattern in Your Life Now – The Ruler feels compelled to be the one at the helm of the decision making process. However, the pressure of making the “right” decision will always be stressful. There is often struggle to choose between the people who will be affected by the decision, or the process (situation) itself, when making decisions for a larger group. The Ruler can experience substance abuse (especially to stimulants to keep them going), insomnia, ulcers, hearing loss, knee problems and OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder). All of these issues have the emotional cause of the need to control the people and things around them.

There are two ways that the Ruler theme reveals itself; The Compassionate Ruler and the Driven Ruler. If you resonate with The Ruler pattern, you might discover that you can possess qualities of one, or even both of the ways that The Ruler is expressed. Often in one area of life you can feel one way, and in another area of life feel another way.

The Compassionate Ruler – The Compassionate Ruler is comfortable at being a leader and being in control, but only when a group, or family dynamic is working in harmony. Whenever there is discord, it causes The Compassionate Ruler to feel a deep burden and stress to “Fix” everyone’s problems. When everyone is happy, they feel in control of their own life. The Compassionate Ruler has a strong desire to be the one in charge of everything; unless of course it causes a fight, then they will relinquish perceived control of the process, but will still watch over it diligently. The Compassionate Ruler will always chose people over the process when making a decision.

The Driven Ruler – The Driven Ruler has a huge hidden fear of being in a position of weakness, and because of that fear, they have an expectation that others are out to get one over on them. The Driven Ruler may also have difficulty connecting to other people, as there is a subconscious belief pattern that people get in the way of progress. Progress toward an aim is the Driven Ruler’s number one goal. If anyone or anything stands in the way of that goal, they become enemy number one. The Driven Ruler is a quick decision maker. This is a wonderful attribute in times of pressure and stress; however they need to learn to listen to the points of view of others in their life. There is a great amount of pride in everything The Driven Ruler does, that pride can lend itself to stubbornness and conceit if not kept in balance. The Driven Ruler will always choose process over people when making a decision.

Past Life Pattern Breakdown:

  • Need to feel in control
  • Pride tied to being in charge
  • Stubbornness/inability to listen
  • Can view others as resources or obligations

Affirmation – “I release all need to be in control. I accept that the world is an uncontrollable place, and I chose to begin the process of relaxing and learning to go with the flow of life.”

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Fear of the Unknown

One of the learning points that keeps coming up for me is being comfortable with the Unknown. This is not always the easiest situation to deal with, but I am finding that the more I am in the space of the unknown, the easier it is to handle.

You see, back before I began my spiritual work, I was a very logical minded person, focused on schedules and planning everything out for myself. This was all done in an attempt to control what was happening in my life. And, as I began to become more aware, I had to learn bit-by-bit to give up my need to be in control.

I have recently had some people l ask me: “How are you able to do this? How are you able to let go of the need to know how everything will happen?” Some days it is not easy, but truthfully most of the time being in a place of surrender is very peaceful.

I often explain it by thinking about my life like a room filled with filing cabinets, each one representing a different topic and area of life. For the longest time, I felt that I had to be in charge of every filing cabinet. I would never let another person, or even my guides, assist me in any way. However, as I became more and more aligned with my guides, I found it that it grew easier and easier to relinquish my need to guard and monitor all of the filing cabinets. Finally coming to a place where I can totally surrender that duty I placed on myself.

By doing so, I have become much more able to cope with change, the unknown, and all things that cannot be controlled or planned for. It is by surrendering my need to be in control, that I can see how much energy I wasted trying to figure everything out. Now I can find the peace of mind to sit back, and allow my intuition to direct me, instead of being in a state of stress.

And, so where many people will find chaos in the unknown, I find that it has now become quite peaceful. (At least most of the time)

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Releasing Expectations

Once again we have seen another month of change this June, and we have all had to shuffle around in one way or another. One important thing that I have learned is to ignore my Ego when it tries to go into planning mode. See, I used to be a super-planner, planning out my outfits for school as a child, and scheduling my day out to the nth degree. However, now in the midst of all of the change going on, I have simply learned to be okay with saying, “I don’t know.”

We tend to think that our future is always set in stone, but it is not. Our future is created by our choices, thoughts and actions made in the now moment. When we look to the future with fear, we create that future; when we look to the future with hope, we create that future. Because we are always in the process of creating, we will never always know what is around the next turn for us.

The only thing I do know is that I have given up trying to figure out what will happen next. Yes, I will follow my intuition when it prompts me. And, yes I will hold positive expectations toward what I wish to manifest. But, beyond that I am not in a space to know all of the details at this moment, nor do I need to. It is only the Self that has to know all of the whos, whats, wheres and hows. It may be difficult for some to release the need to know all of the details, but I have learned to be at peace with not knowing.

At some point on the spiritual path, we are all asked to let go of our perception of control. It is not an easy thing to let go of, and there are still moments when I can hear my Ego trying to add its opinion on such matters. But, I have chosen not to listen to it anymore. We all give energy to our thoughts and expectations from time to time, but many times we take it way too far and waste energy trying to combat every potential outcome of a situation.

One of my favorite affirmations to use when I feel the Ego trying to influence this behavior is “I expect the best, by having no specific expectations.” This way I can remain in a place of positivity, and still let go of the need to control all if the details. It is actually quite a freeing place to be!

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