Speaking your truth, sounds like it should be easy, right? But, most of the time there is a level of apprehension when it comes to being exactly who we want to be. Once you have gone through the process of understanding what your truth is, the next big step in the process is to share that truth with others.
A big part of that sharing is to be a shining example of the truth in your heart. This simply means that you live your life in alignment with your beliefs. The difficulty comes in what to do when you meet someone who has different truths than you do?
Before you can even engage in a heart felt conversation on this level, you must be able to release any pre-conceived notions about being judged. For, if you expect others to judge you, you will keep drawing judgmental people into your life. But, instead if you ask for open minded individuals to be brought into your life for your own learning and love, that is who you will be surrounded by.
Humanity has a deep fear of being judged, whether it is from childhood, the workplace, past lives, or even societal conditioning. Most of us are taught at an early age to compare others by differences and therefore judge those differences to be somehow “bad” when compared to ourselves. Even if you have released all of your judgments of others, there is often still a subconscious belief that others will harshly judge you.
It is a realistic expectation to say that you will never be judged? No. But, you can focus on bringing people into your life who are non-judgmental, and in not giving any energy to those individuals who may be judgmental of you in some way. You can never control how others act toward you, but you can control your reaction to them.
The difficulty here is to balance your speaking up for yourself without judging the other person for what they believe. In most cases, you can look for a common ground to begin with. Or ask the specific questions about where the foundation of their beliefs comes from. And, depending on that person’s communication of how they share their opinions, you might just have to say “That is not my truth” and walk away.
But, how do you know which course of action is best for the given situation? You will have to look at the other person’s energy. Are they trying to overpower you with their opinions? Then this is not someone who wants to share from the heart and you do not need to give this person energy and respect if they do not give it to you.
When you are speaking from the heart and have released any pride or sense of personal ownership based on your opinions, you can share and have wonderful enlightening conversation with others from a place of love, even if on the surface you feel as though you have nothing in common.
By interacting with others and being confident in who you are, you can increase your confidence in yourself and learn tools for empowering others to share of themselves from this space of love. And, by releasing all expectations of judgment, you allow for a sharing of ideals that furthers understanding, empathy and love instead of anger and hate.